What Are The Rules of Swinging?   When considering entering the world of swinging, it pays to do your research first and discover what the rules of swinging are. And, if there are any, how best to follow them? Do the same rules apply to all situations?   Here are my top 5 Rules to follow when swinging: ...

How To Tell Someone You Like Swinging   This article isn’t going to tell you how to talk to your partner about starting swinging. Neither is it going to advise you on how to have that conversation. I’m not going to sugarcoat the truth, and I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear. Why? Well, firstly, I already have a lot of information on how to have the swinging conversation and articles on how to get started in the lifestyle. And secondly, I wanted to share what my journey has been l...

Overcoming Impostor Syndrome: How to Believe in Yourself Even When You Don’t Feel Good Enough How many of us have ever felt like we don’t belong? Are we not good enough, do we not have the correct qualifications, or are perhaps fraudsters terrified of being exposed? Throughout my swinger lifestyle journey, from absolute beginner to Rosie Kay, non-Monogamy relationship coach, there have been many changes, revelations, triumphs, and achievements. However, there has also been one constant: the uns...

Over recent years, the swinger lifestyle has exploded in popularity here in the UK. The UK’s diverse swinging community includes people of various ages, backgrounds, and relationship statuses. Couples, singles, and people of different sexual orientations participate.   Did you know that 1.5 million Brits are swingers? There are reported to be over 150 swingers clubs here in the UK, but how do you go about meeting one of these sexually liberated adults or visiting one of these elusive venues? ...

Hi Rosie, I am scared of talking to my partner about starting swinging; I just don’t know how they will react!    POV: You are scared of your partner’s reaction or there being repercussions when you share your fantasies or make suggestions about the lifestyle.   Why? Why is it that we struggle to talk about intimacy, human nature and sexual desire in our relationships? Because we don’t want to jeopardise the good thing we have built, we don’t want to cause upset and insecurity and potentiall...

HANDLING SWINGER EMOTIONS   Handling Swinger Emotions, this topic is part of a mini-series I am doing, all about handling emotions when swinging with another couple. I have already shared with you two great questions that I received, and in this post, I aim to uncover the mixed bag of emotions that arise when you are swinging with other playmates.   Guilt, jealousy, insecurity and discovery are all part of the process, and luckily for you, I’m right here with you to help make sense of this e...

Ask Rosie- Your Swinger Lifestyle Problems Solved! When I first started in the swinger lifestyle, I really struggled to find help, guidance and support. I felt there wasn't anyone to who I could talk, and when I did look online for answers, I found it difficult to relate to those who were providing the answers; most appeared to be older, US-based couples whose experiences had been completely different from my own. I also found I was unable to talk to my friends as I was fearful of being judged,...

When attending a swingers party, lifestyle club, or any event that is along the lines of getting naked and freaky with others, its best to have some idea into what’s appropriate and what’s not. Proper Swinger Club Etiquette is something that should never be overlooked. Being respectful, considerate and playing safely whilst still being sexy are things that should be all taken into account. Before I attended my first swingers party, I searched online, hoping to find any information that would he...

RECONNECTING AFTER SWINGING Aftercare is a term we usually associate with BDSM relationships, where the submissive partner is cared for by the dominant partner, as they transition from their roles as submissive and dominant back to Jane and Pete from Croydon. Aftercare, or reconnecting, is crucial and should never be ignored. I believe so strongly about the importance of reconnecting after swinging, that I am going to dedicate a whole post to this intimate ritual act. So as always, slip into so...

Male Insecurities And Swinging- Help! I Can’t Get Hard! Recently, I received a question from one of my male followers, who wanted to ask for my thoughts on male sexual performance, and how did I feel about it when a guy loses his erection during a swingers party? Could I share any insight into how men could deal with this and how does it make women feel? Was there a right or wrong way to deal with it? Is there any ‘Erectile Disfunction Etiquette’ that should be followed? There’s more to it than...