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Author: Terence H. Hull PhD Terence H. Hull PhD (2008) Sexual Pleasure and Wellbeing, International Journal of Sexual Health, 20:1-2, 133-145, DOI: 10.1080/19317610802157234 Overview The article discusses the complex relationship between sexual pleasure and overall wellbeing, highlighting the challenges in integrating sexual pleasure into the broader sexual health agenda. It emphasizes the need for a deeper understanding and recognition of sexual pleasure as a crucial aspect of holistic healt...

Authors: Bente Træen & Frode Thuen Bente Træen & Frode Thuen (2022) Non-consensual and Consensual Non-monogamy in Norway, International Journal of Sexual Health, 34:1, 65-80, DOI: 10.1080/19317611.2021.1947931 Overview The study explores the experiences of Norwegians with both non-consensual and consensual non-monogamy. It aims to provide insights into how these practices are related to relationship intimacy and attitudes towards sex and sexuality. Methodology ...

"The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity" by Esther Perel offers a nuanced examination of infidelity in relationships. Perel, a respected couples therapist, presents a controversial perspective that infidelity can ultimately be beneficial for relationships. This does not mean that she advocates for infidelity; rather, she explores how affairs can compel partners to closely reevaluate their attitudes about love, commitment, and sex. The book is lauded for its insightful and balanced approach...

"Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence" by Esther Perel is a profound exploration of the intricate relationship between domesticity and sexual desire. Perel, a renowned therapist, delves into the paradoxical union of these two aspects and offers guidance on rekindling passion in long-term relationships. The book is celebrated for its insightful and counterintuitive approach to modern relationships. Perel's expertise in couples therapy informs her exploration of maintaining desire a...

"Opening Up" is a comprehensive guide on non-monogamous relationships, written by Tristan Taormino, a well-known author and educator on sexuality. The book is often recommended for its practical advice, in-depth research, and inclusive approach to various forms of non-monogamous relationships. Taormino combines personal anecdotes, interviews with people in open relationships, and practical advice to provide a thorough overview of the subject. Key topics covered in the book include: Differen...

"Feminist Trauma Theologies: Body, Scripture & Church in Critical Perspective," edited by Karen O’Donnell and Katie Cross, is a groundbreaking collection that explores the intersection of trauma, theology, and feminist perspectives. This compilation is significant in its approach to trauma theology, a field that acknowledges the enduring impact of traumatic experiences and seeks to integrate these experiences within theological discourse. The book is described as a revelatory journey, sometimes...

"Nadia Bolz-Weber's book *Shameless: A Sexual Reformation* is a provocative and insightful critique of traditional Christian teachings on sexuality. Bolz-Weber, a former pastor, draws from her personal experiences, as well as those of her friends and congregants, to challenge and reformulate Christian perspectives on sex, gender, and relationships. The book is described as a mix of memoir and call to action. Bolz-Weber's critique is grounded in biblical texts and the perspectives of both early ...

Linda Kay Klein's book, "Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free," delves into the consequences of purity culture within evangelical Christianity, particularly its impact on girls and young women. The book is described as a contentious debut, blending Klein's personal experiences with a broader exploration of evangelical purity culture. Klein reflects on her upbringing as a conservative Evangelical Christian and the sexual shaming she e...

"Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle," authored by sisters Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., and Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A., is a comprehensive exploration of the phenomena of burnout, particularly focusing on how it affects women. The book presents burnout as a condition with three primary components: emotional exhaustion (the fatigue from caring too much for too long), depersonalization (the depletion of empathy, caring, and compassion), and a decreased sense of accomplishment (a feeling of futi...

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Health at Every Size This is the HAES Manifesto from the book, "Health at Every Size". You can read more about this at the author's website: https://lindobacon.com/health-at-every-size-book/ The New Peace Movement We’re losing the war on obesity. Fighting fat has not made the fat go away. However, extensive “collateral damage” has resulted: Food and body preoccupation, self-hatred, eating disorders, weight cycling, weight discrimination, poor health. . . . Few of us are at peace with our bodi...

Criminal Background Checks: A Step Towards Safer Connections Many dating sites are experimenting with some type of background check. We are all struggling with finding ways to bring more trust into online dating system. Match.com invested over $1 million in Garbo--a non-invasive background check system. Because Garbo didn't ask too many questions about you, it also came up with so many false positives as to render it's assessments worthless. Match.com ended up abandoning their partnership with...

Don't Yuk Someone's Yum In a sex-positive environment, we want everyone to feel comfortable talking about the things that turn them on, as well as the things that don't. It's not necessary to put down someone else' preferences in order to communicate yours. Claiming to only be talking about how you feel is not sufficient to get you off the hook for a Community Guidelines Violation. Because this topic is somewhat fuzzy, I wanted to provide greater details regarding everyone's responsibility in...

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This is the summary of article taken from: https://www.shipspsychology.com.au If you like the summary, we encourage you to follow the link below to their site to read the entire article.   The Gist The article is written from a psychologist's perspective and aims to guide people who are interested in exploring non-monogamy but are unsure how to initiate that conversation with their partner. It stresses that both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships can be ethical and fulfilling. ...

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For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart. That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial...

"Poly Secure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-Monogamy" by Jessica Fern is a game-changer for folks interested in or practicing polyamory or other forms of consensual non-monogamy (CNM). The book aims to fuse attachment theory with the dynamics of CNM relationships, providing a nuanced understanding of how people in such relationships can create secure attachments. Main Themes Attachment Theory: Jessica Fern delves into how our attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, etc.) i...

The authors argue that early human societies were likely more egalitarian and sexually open. They delve into anthropology, primatology, and psychology to support their claims. The book suggests that the agricultural revolution changed the social dynamics, leading to the property-oriented and monogamous structures we see today. Before that, sharing resources—including sexual partners—was more common and even beneficial for social cohesion. They also critique the "standard narrative" that men are...