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October 17, 2023
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CNM4US Chat Features
CNM4US chat is based on CometChat, an enterprise chat solution. CometChat has a rich and reliable feature set. To activate the chat feature, click on the the burgundy chat icon in the bottom-right corner of your browser window.
Once opened, you will see icons at the bottom of your chat screen for
Chats: conservations already started with other members or groups. Click on a chat to pickup where you left off.
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October 16, 2023
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Health at Every Size
This is the HAES Manifesto from the book, "Health at Every Size".
You can read more about this at the author's website: https://lindobacon.com/health-at-every-size-book/
The New Peace Movement We’re losing the war on obesity. Fighting fat has not made the fat go away. However, extensive “collateral damage” has resulted: Food and body preoccupation, self-hatred, eating disorders, weight cycling, weight discrimination, poor health. . . . Few of us are at peace with our bodi...
October 11, 2023
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Criminal Background Checks: A Step Towards Safer Connections
Many dating sites are experimenting with some type of background check. We are all struggling with finding ways to bring more trust into online dating system.
Match.com invested over $1 million in Garbo--a non-invasive background check system. Because Garbo didn't ask too many questions about you, it also came up with so many false positives as to render it's assessments worthless. Match.com ended up abandoning their partnership with...
October 11, 2023
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Don't Yuk Someone's Yum
In a sex-positive environment, we want everyone to feel comfortable talking about the things that turn them on, as well as the things that don't. It's not necessary to put down someone else' preferences in order to communicate yours.
Claiming to only be talking about how you feel is not sufficient to get you off the hook for a Community Guidelines Violation.
Because this topic is somewhat fuzzy, I wanted to provide greater details regarding everyone's responsibility in...
October 10, 2023
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Featured Member—What's That?
See the yellow flag with the white diamond when you are searching for Members? That is the Featured Member flag. Featured Members also have yellow PINS on the Members Map.
How do you qualify to be Featured?
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September 29, 2023
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This is the summary of article taken from: https://www.shipspsychology.com.au
If you like the summary, we encourage you to follow the link below to their site to read the entire article.
The Gist
The article is written from a psychologist's perspective and aims to guide people who are interested in exploring non-monogamy but are unsure how to initiate that conversation with their partner. It stresses that both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships can be ethical and fulfilling.
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September 27, 2023
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What Happens to the Videos You Post
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We've taken care of all the technical details for you. Just upload your video and we will modify it so that everyone can watch it, no matter what kind of device they have and no matter what type of connection they have.
You must have a Verified account to upload videos.
CNM4US.com uses Mux to transcode and display/deliver your videos. We do not store your videos on our servers....
September 26, 2023
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For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart.
That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial...
September 9, 2023
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"Poly Secure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-Monogamy" by Jessica Fern is a game-changer for folks interested in or practicing polyamory or other forms of consensual non-monogamy (CNM). The book aims to fuse attachment theory with the dynamics of CNM relationships, providing a nuanced understanding of how people in such relationships can create secure attachments.
Main Themes
Attachment Theory: Jessica Fern delves into how our attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, etc.) i...
September 9, 2023
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The authors argue that early human societies were likely more egalitarian and sexually open. They delve into anthropology, primatology, and psychology to support their claims. The book suggests that the agricultural revolution changed the social dynamics, leading to the property-oriented and monogamous structures we see today. Before that, sharing resources—including sexual partners—was more common and even beneficial for social cohesion.
They also critique the "standard narrative" that men are...
September 9, 2023
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By Natalie Babcock | Los Angele Times
Sept. 8, 2023 5 AM PT
Last spring, after eight years of a stable partnership, my husband and I opened our marriage. In truth, I was the one to push for this change in the first place. For many, this disclosure would have been an absolute curveball. But fortunately Sam and I had been fleshing out the parameters of ethical nonmonogamy for some time, theoretically musing about the drawbacks of long-term partnership since our third date.
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August 16, 2023
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Psychology Today maintains a database of therapists who embrace Non-Monogamy. You can search by city and zip code. Follow the link below to jump to their search page.
August 16, 2023
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Therapy Den is an online directory for all types of therapists, inclucing sex postivie therapists who specialize in non-monogamous couples.
August 15, 2023
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Claire Kimberly and Robert McGinley
To cite this article: Claire Kimberly & Robert McGinley (2018): Changes in the swinging lifestyle: a US national and historical comparison, Culture, Health & Sexuality, DOI:10.1080/13691058.2018.1460692
Abstract
The paper aims to understand how the swinging lifestyle has evolved over time, comparing data from the 1980s to 2016. The study found that compared to the general population, swingers are more likely to be Caucasian, younger, educated, and wealthy. ...
August 15, 2023
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Claire Kimberly, Jason D. Hans
Received: 5 July 2014 / Revised: 31 August 2015 / Accepted: 7 September 2015
Springer Science+Business Media New York 2015
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The paper focuses on swinger couples—committed couples who consensually engage in extra-relational sex for recreational purposes. The study aims to understand the experiences of such couples, especially how they transition into and maintain marital satisfaction in the swinging lifestyle. The paper is based on 32 semi-structured in...
August 15, 2023
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Claire Kimberly
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The paper aims to validate a theoretical model formed by Kimberly and Hans in 2017 that explored how swinging relationships were initiated and maintained. This study tests the theory with 273 self-identified swingers through an online survey. The results mostly supported the previous model but found two exceptions: participants disagreed with having high self-esteem prior to entering the lifestyle and that men (rather than women) screened potential partners.
Key Point...
August 15, 2023
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Claire Kimberly & Amanda L. Williams & Stacy Creel
© Springer Science+Business Media New York 2017
Abstract
The paper explores the relationship between women's consumption of erotica, particularly BDSM-focused literature like "Fifty Shades of Grey," and their sexual and relationship satisfaction. The study aims to understand how erotica introduces women to alternative sexual behaviors like BDSM and how this affects their relationships and overall well-being.
Key Points
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August 15, 2023
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Gurit E. Birnbaum, Yaniv Kanat-Maymon, Moran Mizrahi, May Recanati, and Romy Orr
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The paper explores how sexual fantasies affect relationships. It focuses on "dyadic fantasies" (fantasies about one's partner) and "extradyadic fantasies" (fantasies about someone other than one's partner). The study aims to understand how these fantasies contribute to relationship outcomes and the mechanisms that underlie this connection.
Key Points
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August 15, 2023
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The paper argues for the value of compersion, a term used in non-monogamous communities to describe positive feelings towards a partner's intimacy with other people. The author challenges the idea that jealousy is a natural or virtuous emotional disposition, suggesting that compersion focuses on the flourishing of others and is not akin to pride, vicarious enjoyment, or masochistic pleasure.
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August 15, 2023
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When it comes to commitment, does sexual orientation make a difference?
Posted September 27, 2014 | Reviewed by Jessica Schrader
Our world loves simple, black-and-white categories, and life is not always easy for the people who don’t easily fit in the resulting dichotomies—gay or straight; male or female.
Consider bisexuals, often unwelcome in both straight and gay/lesbian communities. The list of stereotypes about bisexuals is long: confused; in transition; greedy; repressed homosexuals; att...
August 15, 2023
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What the experiences of nonmonogamous couples can tell us about jealousy, love, desire and trust.
By Susan Dominus
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August 15, 2023
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Description
Relationships aren't "one-size-fits-all" so why should relationship advice be? Multiamory offers practical, research-based communication tools for the full spectrum of modern relationships.
When Multiamory authors Dedeker Winston, Emily Sotelo Matlack, and Jase Lindgren started producing their advice show about polyamory and other non-traditional relationships, they received dozens of questions from listeners about all sorts of relationship quandaries and communication stalema...
August 15, 2023
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The paper explores the transitional period when a monogamous couple first decides to explore consensual nonmonogamy (CNM). It uses relational turbulence theory to understand the feelings and perceptions of individuals who have transitioned from monogamous to CNM relationships. The study recruited 210 participants over 18 years of age who had been in such a transition.
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August 15, 2023
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Abstract
The paper focuses on "compersion," a term well-known in polyamorous communities that describes the positive emotion one feels when their partner has a relationship with another person. The paper aims to create a reliable and valid quantitative scale called "COMPERSe" (Classifying Our Metamour/Partner Emotional Response Scale) to measure compersion. The scale is based on a multi-stage, bottom-up process grounded in qualitative data from people in consensually non-monogamous (CNM) rela...
August 15, 2023
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Have you read "that book" on non-monogamy and still wondered "But how do you actually DO this?"
Are you totally great on the theory of open relationships, but feel like you don't know how it works in practice?
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August 15, 2023
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Dr. Tammy Nelson is a relationship revolutionary. Her rethinking of monogamy―as a practice, a continuum, and a flexible concept―is on point, actionable, and nothing less than a significant cultural shift.
―Wednesday Martin, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of Primates of Park Avenue and Untrue
Love is eternal―but in an age when we live longer, communicate differently, and value gender equality, is it any wonder so many people are looking for new ways to support lasting, loving partne...
August 15, 2023
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The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today’s modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.
"One of the most useful relationship books you could ever read, no matter what your lifestyle choices. It’s chock-full of great information about communication, jealousy, asking for what you want, and maintaining a relationship with integrity."—Annie Sprinkle, PhD, sexologist and author of D...
August 14, 2023
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CNM4US Mission
This purpose of this website is to create a sex-positive space for people to explore consensual non-monogamy.
Education
Titilation
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August 14, 2023
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The Public Cannot See the Following
Any Member's Profile
The Photo or Video Sections
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August 14, 2023
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Members Map
The Members Map is centered around your postal code, assuming you are logged in and have entered a postal code into your profile.
Click on each pin to see a popup of that member. Each pin matches a member profile below the map. If you click on the member image in the popup, you'll end up on that member's profile.
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January 7, 2025
Author: Lauren Hayse
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For Better or Even Better
7 Lessons on Life & Love from a Non-Monogamist
Discover the candid, transformative journey of a relationship coach navigating life and love outside traditional boundaries. In this insightful guide, readers are invited into a world where transparency, emotional honesty, and vulnerability shape relationships—both monogamous and non-monogamous. With a unique blend of humor, personal anecdotes, and deep wisdom, this boo...
August 14, 2023
CNM4US Mission
This purpose of this website is to create a sex-positive space for people to explore consensual non-monogamy.
Education
Titilation
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March 24, 2024
Welcome to CNM4US!
Imagine a mashup between Facebook's social media features and Match.com's date matching features. Nude and erotic photos are allowed. The date matching features are oriented toward Consensual Non-Monogamy.
That's CNM4US. Well, except for all the negativity. Facebook can keep that. This site is heavily moderated.
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