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Life is a Game of Risk Management All our lives are one prolonged risk management exercise. Most of us could live to 90 or more if we never took risks, ate anything delicious, went outside, or had fun. On the other hand, those who are bad at risk management are more likely to suffer painful or debilitating consequences or even premature demise. They might even earn a Darwin Award. Risk management is a game of odds. Sometimes, the ball takes an unexpected bounce. People who are great at risk ma...

Freely given. Consenting is a choice you make without pressure, manipulation, or under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Reversible. Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing, anytime. Even if you’ve done it before, and even if you’re both naked in bed. Informed. You can only consent to something if you have the full story. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, there isn’t full consent. Enthusiastic. When it comes to sex, you should o...

Hi Rosie, what is soft swinging?    Today, I have decided to create content that often gets overlooked when discussing the lifestyle: soft swinging. In this article, I will discuss soft swinging, why a couple might practice it, and how it is viewed in the adult lifestyle world. Are couples who practice soft swinging less 'useful' than those who 'go all the way'? And are there some couples or individuals who only ever soft-swap?    Turn those lights down low and settle in. It's time to talk a...

Non-Monogamy & Newbie drama! He did what?!? Eyes roll. Jaws drop. Quick, please--somebody fetch my popcorn. Cuz, here we go again! I will tell you the number one cause of newbie drama, hurt feelings, and broken relationships. Lack of communication! But you didn't even know what you were supposed to communicate about, which is what I will explain to you right now. Types of Non-Monogamy ...

CNM4US Notes Finding the right matches in the lifestyle is a numbers game. Network, communicate, discuss. Wait, did we talk to those people already? I can't remember what they said. Every profile has a Notes tab where you can leave notes for yourself. Only you can see your notes. The profile you left it on cannot see your notes. Other members cannot see your notes. Only you can see your notes. If there's something important you need to remember about a profile, leave a note for yourself to ...

Welcome to this Exciting Collaboration! Greetings TKG Club  members. CNM4US welcomes you to the site! ThisKindaGirl will be offering its members lifestyle dating features via CNM4US. CNM4US provides social media and dating features for the lifestyle community. Think a mashup between facebook and match.com but for swingers. ThisKindaGirl will make their exclusive content available on their new private group TKG - Premium on CNM4US. ThisKindaGirl will continue to make their exclusivie conten...

Testimonials Testimonials are a great way to meet new people. We naturally seek the opinions of people we know and trust, and the lifestyle is no different. That's why CNM4US provides a Testimonials feature on every Profile.  How do Testimonials Work? ...

The CNM4US Marketplace Verified members can sell items in the Marketplace. We currently support payment service providers PayPal and Stripe. If you have an account with one of these PSPs, you can enter your PSP information in your CNM4US Account Settings and start selling items in the Marketplace.  What Can We Sell? You can sell tangible or intangible items.   ...

SwingRing and The 10-minute Touch Base Call The lifestyle journey is fun, exciting, sexy .... and full of challenges. Along the way, you will encounter fakes, flakes, and people who are pondering their options but are still not ready to commit. All of this can make for a lot of disappointing meetings. People fail to show up. People show up but don't look anything like their photos. One person of the couple is super excited to meet you and their partner appears confused about why you are meeti...

The Need for Privacy Some folks are totally open about their participation in the Lifestyle. They want to know what rings or jewelry they can wear to signal to other swingers. They are happy to wear a t-shirt with a giant upside-down pineapple. They don't care who knows. They have no fears. Some people have good reasons to keep their lifestyle habits private. Their conservative family or church community might disown them. They might get fired. If they are active military personnel, they might...