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RECONNECTING AFTER SWINGING Aftercare is a term we usually associate with BDSM relationships, where the submissive partner is cared for by the dominant partner, as they transition from their roles as submissive and dominant back to Jane and Pete from Croydon. Aftercare, or reconnecting, is crucial and should never be ignored. I believe so strongly about the importance of reconnecting after swinging, that I am going to dedicate a whole post to this intimate ritual act. So as always, slip into so...

Male Insecurities And Swinging- Help! I Can’t Get Hard! Recently, I received a question from one of my male followers, who wanted to ask for my thoughts on male sexual performance, and how did I feel about it when a guy loses his erection during a swingers party? Could I share any insight into how men could deal with this and how does it make women feel? Was there a right or wrong way to deal with it? Is there any ‘Erectile Disfunction Etiquette’ that should be followed? There’s more to it than...

You have been chatting with another couple online, and perhaps you have had a swinger first date where you guys have discussed your expectations, limits and kinks. You have all gotten to know one another, and you like what you see! It’s only natural that you then want to meet up and turn all your fantasies into realities! Here are a few of my top tips for swinging with another couple: It would be best if you established where it is acceptable to orgasm before you orgasm! You also should ask...

Can I enjoy swinging if I am naturally shy? Can I let you into a secret? Lean close, and I’ll whisper it in your ear. I’m naturally a shy introvert! Really?! I can hear you asking really?! This girl with all the savvy swinger know-how and the smart mouth is shy? Yep! I’m afraid so! But have I let this shyness hold me back from swinging? No! Have I learnt to overcome my shyness and have a great time when swapping partners? yes! ...

Different Types Of Swingers we all have our own ideas as to what makes sex great! Sex is as unique as the person having it. What makes YOU tick is exclusive and reserved only for you. Yes, we may enjoy something similar to others or have shared fantasies and desires, however, the emotions, the sensations and the particular way that your body responds to sex is deeply personal. We may have wants and desires that we share, but only we know our true comfort levels. There is no right or wrong way...

Body Confidence When Swinging. Recently, I was discussing body confidence with one of my friends, A, who’s a single girl. Although A isn’t a swinger, she’s quite curious about the lifestyle and swinger scene, and I told her I’d take her with me to a club that was suited to her particular fetish when they reopen. She confided in me that although she is keen to attend, she doesn’t feel body positive and confident. I assured her she had nothing to worry about, but this got me thinking, and so, I gi...

Having an open relationship, talking about it honestly, truthfully, and showing vulnerability to your partner, comes from a place of love. Wanting to keep your existing relationship intact and find a solution that suits both of you, without jeopardising the life you have built together, that's love. Let’s talk about open relationships. Have you heard any of the following statements? That’s where one of you gets to cheat, and the other person has no say in it, right? ...

What Is Being A Swinger Like? I have been in the swinger Lifestyle for over 10 years now, so I would like to think that I have a pretty solid understanding of what being in the scene is all about. Over the last ten plus years, I have met both amazing swingers and awful ones. I have been in situations that have not gone as planned, met some really creepy individuals, had some underwhelming experiences, but on the whole, its been an absolute pleasure; after all, I’ve been doing it, and doing it ...

Is Swinging Cheating? Many people ask this question, and for good reason. If you type swinging into Google, cheating and swinging are displayed as popular topics. It is easy to see why people might associate swinging with cheating, as we are talking about having sexual intercourse outside of your relationship. First, we have to establish what exactly cheating is and why men and women view it differently. Before we get started discussing swinging and cheating, here are my top tips on avoiding c...

How Does The Swinger Lifestyle Work? Hi Rosie, how does the swinger lifestyle work? Is it best to go to a club or meet people in private? Is it like a free-for-all, or is it more personal than this? We have no idea what to expect but are curious. When I received this question, How Does The Swinger Lifestyle Work, I knew I would enjoy diving into it and dissecting it further. Banishing the stigma associated with the lifestyle and challenging common misconceptions people have is one reason I...

How Common Is Swinging? When you think about swinging and sexual liberation, how far back do you go? In ancient history, there are a few examples of sexual promiscuity that you already may be familiar with. In Ancient Rome, Emperor Tiberius used to enjoy swimming with young male lovers. Messalina, the wife of Claudius, challenged the prostitutes of Rome to a competition to see how many men each could sleep with, in a single night. These examples, however, are merely folk law and modern swingin...

Can Single Women Attend Swinger Clubs? There are two reasons I wanted to write this post; firstly because I wrote an article recently titled 'Can Single Men Visit Swinger Clubs?' and why should they get all the advice? And secondly, I asked my followers to get in touch with their questions, and my DM inbox has been bursting with replies. I am, after all, here to answer all your swinger, relationship and lifestyle-related queries! So, if you are sitting comfortably, I shall begin. Dear thiski...

Can Single Men Visit Swinger Clubs? Welcome sexy single males to the world of swinger clubs! Before you strip off and dive in, read my top tips on how Single Men can visit swinger clubs and what you can do to boost your chances of success! Here are my quick 5 essential top tips: ...

The Swinging Paradigm: An Evaluation of the Marital and Sexual Satisfaction of Swingers Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, Volume 12, January 23, 2009 By Edward M. Fernandes "The Swinging Paradigm" by Edward M. Fernandes provides an in-depth analysis of the swinging lifestyle, focusing on the marital and sexual satisfaction of swingers. The introduction highlights the development of Fernandes' interest in the topic, spurred by an article questioning whether family values can survive sexua...

Porn in Their Words: Female Leaders in the Adult Entertainment Industry Address Free Speech, Censorship, Feminism, Culture and the Mainstreaming of Adult Content Vanderbilt Journal of Entertainment & Technology Law Volume 9 Issue 2 - Winter 2006 This journal article "Porn in Their Words: Female Leaders in the Adult Entertainment Industry Address Free Speech, Censorship, Feminism, Culture, and the Mainstreaming of Adult Content" is a comprehensive exploration into the intersection of the adul...

In her memoir, “More,” Molly Roden Winter recounts the highs and lows of juggling an open marriage with work and child care. By Alexandra Alter For anyone prone to experiencing secondhand embarrassment, there’s a scene in Molly Roden Winter’s debut, “More: A Memoir of Open Marriage,” that should come with a warning. Winter is at her home in Brooklyn. She has just had sex with her boyfriend while her two children sleep upstairs. Her husband, Stewart, consented to her tryst, but feeling guilt...

A smart, sexy guide to embracing the repressed, tabooed, and often unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power and finally live the life we deserve. “We always get exactly what we want; but often, though we may not be aware of it, what we most want is dark—very dark.” Each of us has a dual nature: we are light (conscious) and dark (unconscious). The dark side of our personality—the “other,” the shadow side—is made up of what we think is our primitive, primal, negative impu...

A leading expert on human sexuality and author of the blog Sex and Psychology offers an unprecedented look at sexual fantasy based on the most comprehensive, scientific survey ever undertaken. What do Americans really want when it comes to sex? And is it possible for us to get what we want? Justin J. Lehmiller, one of the country's leading experts on human sexuality and author of the popular blog Sex and Psychology, has made it his career's ambition to answer these questions. He recently conclu...

"The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love" by Dedeker Winston is a comprehensive and insightful book that delves into the world of polyamory and non-monogamous relationships. Here's a review of the book: Overview Dedeker Winston's book serves as an informative guide, particularly aimed at women, though it's valuable for anyone interested in exploring polyamory. It covers a wide range of topics, from the basics...