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By December 13, 2024
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TKG Club: Your Gateway to a Wider World of ENM   Tired of the same old dating apps and the endless search for genuine connection within the Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) world? You're not alone.   Many of us crave a deeper, more meaningful experience beyond casual hookups and superficial interactions. ...
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By December 11, 2024
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  Every relationship is as unique as you are. Relationship Diversity Podcast aims to celebrate, question, and explore all aspects of relationships and relationship structure diversity. Together, we’ll bust through societal programming to break open and dissect everything we thought we knew about relationships. We’ll ask challenging and transformational questions, like: Who am I? What do I really want in my relationships? Am I in this relationship structure because it’s all I know or is it reall...
Hosting

By November 26, 2024
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How To Host Swinger Parties: I have wanted to write this post for quite a while. It's been niggling away at me. A dull ache, my desire to share with you, an intimate account of what goes on behind closed doors. In this post, you will discover how I like to play and what I get up to behind closed doors! Not only are you going to get all the best advice on hosting swinging parties (so your parties are destined to be a sexy success) I will also be drawing from my own experiences of parties I have a...
General Education

By November 21, 2024
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Top Swinger Date Ideas  Welcome to ‘the Lifestyle’. If you are reading this, then chances are you have already had the ‘I Want To Try Swinging’ conversation with your partner or have given it some serious consideration if you are a single person wanting to get involved in swinging. But how do you go about having that all-important swinger first date?    Here are a few top swinger date ideas: ...
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By November 12, 2024
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https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/2402755.rss Join Lauren Hayes, your Swinging Lifestyle Coach and expert in ethical non-monogamy, alongside her co-host Ben, an ex-LDS polyamorous friend, as they dive into the reality TV show The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Together, they peel back the curtain on how the show portrays relationships, particularly in the LDS and swinger communities. Lauren and Ben take on each episode, discussing what’s real, what’s exaggerated, and what’s just plain wrong about ho...
Couples

By November 6, 2024
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I said no, and now I regret it- help!- Ad, Newcastle    Hi Rosie. My wife and I have visited clubs previously, and we enjoyed the atmosphere but haven't played with others. A little while ago, she was working in a bar, and a guy started talking to her about a threesome. She came home and told me, and I said, let's do it. She took 6 weeks to arrange it, but this time she was messaging him a lot and saw him at the bar.   She wouldn't let me meet him or chat with him online. I stopped it becaus...
General Education

By October 31, 2024
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How To Act In A Swingers Club   Why I believe this article is long overdue... When working with my coaching clients on a 1-2-1 basis, they often ask me for advice on behaviour and etiquette in clubs.    'How should I/we act in a swingers club? What behaviour is a no-no?'  ...
General Education

By October 25, 2024
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Body Confidence When Swinging   Recently, I was discussing body confidence with one of my friends, A, who’s a single girl. Although A isn’t a swinger, she’s quite curious about the lifestyle and swinger scene, and I told her I’d take her with me to a club that was suited to her particular fetish when they reopen. She confided in me that although she is keen to attend, she doesn’t feel body positive and confident. I assured her she had nothing to worry about, but this got me thinking, and so I...
Single Women

By October 24, 2024
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Attending A Swingers Party: 9 Top Tips For Female Swingers.   The advice I’m about to give you is the same advice I wish I’d gotten when I took my first tentative dip into the swinger lifestyle. When I first started swinging, I had no idea of what to expect! I didn’t know what to wear, what to take, or how to prepare for the night ahead. A lot of the things I have learnt over the years have been simply through trial and error. However, I don’t want you to struggle as I did, so I figured I woul...
General Education

By October 24, 2024
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What Are The Rules of Swinging?   When considering entering the world of swinging, it pays to do your research first and discover what the rules of swinging are. And, if there are any, how best to follow them? Do the same rules apply to all situations?   Here are my top 5 Rules to follow when swinging: ...
Health & Safety

By October 15, 2024
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I'm scared of accidentally catching an STI or STD when swinging. Hi Rosie, I am unsure if this is the right place to ask this question, but I am not sure who else to ask. I looked on Google, but I found the search results confusing. So here goes! I have been wanting to visit a swingers club for some time now, as I find it a massive turn on the thought of meeting with couples, and I am especially keen to be part of an MMF threesome. But I am really scared of accidentally catching an STI or STD. ...
Lifestyle

By October 14, 2024
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How To Tell Someone You Like Swinging   This article isn’t going to tell you how to talk to your partner about starting swinging. Neither is it going to advise you on how to have that conversation. I’m not going to sugarcoat the truth, and I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear. Why? Well, firstly, I already have a lot of information on how to have the swinging conversation and articles on how to get started in the lifestyle. And secondly, I wanted to share what my journey has been l...
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By October 12, 2024
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http://open.spotify.com/episode/0eCjn76ggLxkWJd5Td3dbG?si=BkGJnS1bSzyBBCBlSNyaKw&t=3106 Richard has the same idea to verify people to stop ghosting amongst others. Basically how to get rid of flakey people in the lifestyle. Almost at the end of the episode.    Thanks for this service Rosie and CNM4US 
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By October 11, 2024
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Kink, swingers, and adult lifestyle education https://anchor.fm/s/f2054eb4/podcast/rss
Lifestyle

By September 24, 2024
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Overcoming Impostor Syndrome: How to Believe in Yourself Even When You Don’t Feel Good Enough How many of us have ever felt like we don’t belong? Are we not good enough, do we not have the correct qualifications, or are perhaps fraudsters terrified of being exposed? Throughout my swinger lifestyle journey, from absolute beginner to Rosie Kay, non-Monogamy relationship coach, there have been many changes, revelations, triumphs, and achievements. However, there has also been one constant: the uns...
News and Resources

By September 18, 2024
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Women of Sex Tech This is part of CNM4US continuing series on the Women of Sex Tech. Below is a summary of one of the women of sex tech. Visit the Women of Sex Tech to find out more about these innovative entrpreneurs. Nina Haines Nina is a Gender & Sexuality Studies major at NYU, where her focus lies in rape culture and its intersection with sex tech. She has been working at Unbound for over a year as an intern, specifically assisting with social media influencer marketing, partnerships, and...
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By September 17, 2024
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Health & Safety

By September 11, 2024
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Hi Rosie, I have been looking online to find swingers in my local area, and I have noticed that a few swinger couples, in their online profiles, have stated that they are looking for long-term swinger friends with who they can fluid bond with. My question, or rather questions, are as follows: is fluid bonding and bareback the same thing? How popular is this in the lifestyle, and how could it be practised safely?- AJ California    Dear AJ, Thank you for your questions. Although this particular ...
News and Resources

By September 10, 2024
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Women of Sex Tech This is part of CNM4US continuing series on the Women of Sex Tech. Below is a summary of one of the women of sex tech. Visit the Women of Sex Tech to find out more about these innovative entrpreneurs. Marcy Gooberman Marcy is the designer and illustrator of tabú, a modern discovery platform for sex and health. Marcy discovered her passion for sex education when she was studying graphic design at Maryland Institute College of Art. She has experience working with other educati...
News and Resources

By September 1, 2024
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Women of Sex Tech This is part of CNM4US continuing series on the Women of Sex Tech. Below is a summary of one of the women of sex tech. Visit the Women of Sex Tech to find out more about these innovative entrpreneurs. Andrea Barrica Andrea Barrica is CEO/co-founder of O.school, an online shame-free platform for pleasure education, powered by live-streaming and chat to help people unlearn shame, process trauma, and learn about sex and pleasure. Previously, Andrea co-founded YC-backed accounti...
News and Resources

By August 30, 2024
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Women of Sex Tech This is part of CNM4US continuing series on the Women of Sex Tech. Below is a summary of one of the women of sex tech. Visit the Women of Sex Tech to find out more about these innovative entrpreneurs. Stephanie Alys Stephanie is a Co-founder and Chief Pleasure Officer (CPO) of MysteryVibe, an award-winning British pleasure brand. As CPO, Stephanie is focused on changing perceptions around pleasure in a positive and empowering way. A strong advocate that pleasure is a beautif...
News and Resources

By August 30, 2024
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This New York Times article, "Women of Sex Tech Unite," highlights the rise of a creative group of women in the sex tech industry who challenge traditional norms and pave the way for innovation in the space. These women are not just business leaders but advocates for sexual empowerment, diversity, and inclusion. The article showcases how they are creating technology-driven products and services that cater to a wide range of sexual experiences and identities, emphasizing the importance of female ...
Couples

By August 27, 2024
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She said his penis was small, and now things are awkward! Help! Hi there; recently, my wife and I had an interaction with another couple we met online and had become friendly with. After we had all finished playing, my wife revealed to me that she thought the other bloke's penis was quite small and didn't want to meet up with them again. This has now caused an issue as my wife doesn't want a repeat, but the other girl does. We are friends with this couple, and now things are a bit awkward when...
Lifestyle

By August 15, 2024
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I am worried I sound like a pervert when I talk about sex!   Hi Rosie, my wife and I have been married for ten years, and our relationship is excellent. About six months ago, I suggested exploring the non-monogamy, or swinger lifestyle. She was more on board than I thought she would be, and we subsequently watched some YouTube videos and tried to educate ourselves further. Since this exciting start, however, we have struggled to have further conversations; when I suggest visiting a swinger clu...
Clubs

By August 5, 2024
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Over recent years, the swinger lifestyle has exploded in popularity here in the UK. The UK’s diverse swinging community includes people of various ages, backgrounds, and relationship statuses. Couples, singles, and people of different sexual orientations participate.   Did you know that 1.5 million Brits are swingers? There are reported to be over 150 swingers clubs here in the UK, but how do you go about meeting one of these sexually liberated adults or visiting one of these elusive venues? ...
Using this Website

By July 31, 2024
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Bug Bounty It is inevitable that a site with this many features will have a few bugs from time to time. However, CNM4US strives to identify and fix bugs as rapidly as possible. Our members can help by reporting bugs when they find them. If you are the first member to report a replicable bug, CNM4US will reward your communication to us with $50. If you are the 2nd or 3rd person to report the same bug, BEFORE it's fixed, CNM4US will bestow upon you 1 kudo. 3 kudos = $50 reward. ...
General Education

By July 24, 2024
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Hi Rosie, my partner and I had an incredible swinging experience while we were on vacation. We hooked up with a fun couple, and everything was amazing. Fast forward to Thanksgiving dinner at my aunt and uncle's house, and to our shock, one of the people we played with walks in. Turns out, he's my second cousin! We locked eyes across the table, both of us frozen in shock. We didn't know what to do, and my partner and I didn't speak to the second cousin during the dinner. Now we have to navigate t...
Relationships

By July 21, 2024
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Extramonogamous Non-monogamous relationships come in many forms, each with its own set of rules, norms, and expectations. Terms like Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM), Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), Open Relationships, Swinging, and Polyamory are commonly used to describe various relationship dynamics that extend beyond traditional monogamy. However, these terms can sometimes lead to confusion, especially regarding partner consent within these relationships. We propose a new term: extramonogamous, to...
Couples

By July 17, 2024
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Hi Rosie, My husband and I are relatively new to the world of swinging. We have spoken to some couples online and have checked out a swingers club locally that we might visit, and although I am not opposed to it, I am struggling to see what role I can play. It's not that I don't want to be part of the lifestyle; I do, but I don't feel I can be intimate with men other than my husband. Whenever I speak to my husband about how I am feeling, he doesn't seem to understand where I am coming from and s...
Relationship Talk

By July 15, 2024
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What Happens When A Couple Go From Monogamy to Ethical Non-Monogamy    Last week, I was speaking with one of you lovely members here in CNM4US, who asked me if I created content about ENM or if it was just swinging. The answer is yes, yes I do, and although I am perhaps a little 'swinger heavy' at times (ok, I am quite swinger lifestyle focussed), I do indeed create ENM content, too. So here, for you, is an article I wrote all about transitioning from Monogamy to Ethical Monogamy, which is a...
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