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Relationship Talk

By July 15, 2024
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What Happens When A Couple Go From Monogamy to Ethical Non-Monogamy    Last week, I was speaking with one of you lovely members here in CNM4US, who asked me if I created content about ENM or if it was just swinging. The answer is yes, yes I do, and although I am perhaps a little 'swinger heavy' at times (ok, I am quite swinger lifestyle focussed), I do indeed create ENM content, too. So here, for you, is an article I wrote all about transitioning from Monogamy to Ethical Monogamy, which is a...
Using this Website

By July 13, 2024
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CNM4US Cruise Groups One of our members, Alcouple47, mentioned that swingers who take vanilla cruises look for other swingers on those cruises. I've done a little reading to confirm many postings in forums asking about how swingers can find other swingers on vanilla cruises. Not everyone will hang an upside-down pineapple or post a suggestive note on their door. What's a swinger at sea supposed to do? CNM4US has an answer -- Cruise Groups On request, CNM4US will create a Group for a specific...
Using this Website

By July 13, 2024
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The CNM4US Affiliate Program Affiliate Links Any link to the site can be turned into an affiliate link by simply adding the following: ?affiliateID=yourMemberName For example, Fred can create an affiliate link to the site like this. https://www.cnm4us.com?affiliateID=Fred ...
Relationship Talk

By July 9, 2024
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Hi Rosie, I am scared of talking to my partner about starting swinging; I just don’t know how they will react!    POV: You are scared of your partner’s reaction or there being repercussions when you share your fantasies or make suggestions about the lifestyle.   Why? Why is it that we struggle to talk about intimacy, human nature and sexual desire in our relationships? Because we don’t want to jeopardise the good thing we have built, we don’t want to cause upset and insecurity and potentiall...
Relationships

By July 9, 2024
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Hi, Rosie, Is your wife cuckolding you with your boss too risky? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this, as it's something that has been going around in my mind for so long. Do you think it's possible, or am I just going to cause problems by even suggesting it? Thank you for your question.   Thank you for your question, Cuckolding is a practice I have written about previously and a dynamic that I myself have practised. It appears that cuckolding and Ethical Non-Monogamy go hand in hand, but to...
Women's Health

By July 8, 2024
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How Your Gut Health Can Be a Libido Booster by Camila Sluman | Jul 3, 2024 | SEXUALITY Yes, you read the title right. Perhaps unexpectedly, the gut plays a potent role in sexual vitality. While gut health has become a hot topic recently, its connection to other bodily functions besides digestion (including things like anxiety and, of course, sexual health) is lesser known. Keep reading to learn more about how and why a flourishing gut microbiome can help produce an increased libido. ...
LGBTQ

By July 8, 2024
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How to Find an LGBTQ Affirming Therapist by Dr. Kat Arenella | Jul 7, 2024 | LGBTQ, MENTAL HEALTH, SOCIAL ISSUES, THERAPY If you identify as part of the LGBTQIA2S+ community, finding affirming mental health care can feel like a daunting task. This concern is also, unfortunately, a valid one; many sexual and gender minoritized folks report experiencing harm by providers who lack understanding and knowledge in queer mental health, and this is especially true for queer and trans people of color. ...
Podcast Feeds

By July 3, 2024
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https://feeds.megaphone.fm/CTL9529542714
Couples

By July 1, 2024
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What should we take when meeting a swinger couple at their house?    Hi Rosie, my wife and I started swinging about six months ago, and we have so far been to a swingers club- where we had a soft swap experience and have also been talking to some swinger couples online with the hope of meeting up for a date and maybe more! The last time we spoke to a couple online, they told us about a private meet at their house they were planning, and this got us thinking: should my wife and I choose to atte...
Relationship Talk

By June 25, 2024
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Yikes, my partner is moving too fast!   Hi Rosie, my partner and I started swinging about six months ago, and we met a couple in private who we found online. We also visited a swingers club three times. Although I enjoy it, and I am on board with it, my male partner, whom I have been with for 2 years, often gets very 'fired up' when speaking to other swingers online or looking at clubs. I understand that he is enthusiastic, but I often feel he makes decisions without considering how I might fe...
Podcast Feeds

By June 24, 2024
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https://feeds.megaphone.fm/ADV2784359250
General Education

By June 24, 2024
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HANDLING SWINGER EMOTIONS   Handling Swinger Emotions, this topic is part of a mini-series I am doing, all about handling emotions when swinging with another couple. I have already shared with you two great questions that I received, and in this post, I aim to uncover the mixed bag of emotions that arise when you are swinging with other playmates.   Guilt, jealousy, insecurity and discovery are all part of the process, and luckily for you, I’m right here with you to help make sense of this e...
Single Women

By June 17, 2024
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Rejection? Or just busy?   Hi Rosie, I am a single woman in the swinger lifestyle and I have been part of the scene for around 6 months. I have attended a social event here in my hometown and spoke to a few couples online.   Two weeks ago, I had my first meeting with a couple. We have all been getting along fine, and we chat in a group chat every other day, but over the last few days, I have noticed that their responses have become less frequent, and they seem less engaged than they were be...
Single Men

By June 13, 2024
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What if I can’t get it up?   Hi Rosie, I am a 45-year-old single man who is new to the scene. I can't wait to attend my first event and play with couples, but what if I can’t get hard? Is this normal in the lifestyle?   Signed, excited but anxious, Berlin, Germany ...
Couples

By June 13, 2024
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It is okay to just watch? Hi Rosie, I'm not sure if my question is a common one, but I thought you might be able to offer me some advice on it as I'm not sure who to talk to. My wife and I like the thought of going to a swingers club, and we regularly talk about the experiences we might have and also share our fantasies. Although we want to play with a couple, we are also quite nervous about it- the thought of completely swapping terrifies us, and we were wondering, can we watch in a swingers ...
Using this Website

By June 12, 2024
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CNM4US introduces the Private Access Pass Have you ever wanted a business card for your lifestyle profile? One of the biggest problems with Lifestyle websites is their fragmentation. If you meet someone interesting at a club or meet-n-greet, what are the chances that you are both on the same site? Slim! Your online community does little to support your IRL (In Real Life) networking efforts. Giving someone your profile name only helps them if they subscribe to the same site—and mostly, they do...
Relationship Talk

By June 10, 2024
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Ask Rosie- Your Swinger Lifestyle Problems Solved! When I first started in the swinger lifestyle, I really struggled to find help, guidance and support. I felt there wasn't anyone to who I could talk, and when I did look online for answers, I found it difficult to relate to those who were providing the answers; most appeared to be older, US-based couples whose experiences had been completely different from my own. I also found I was unable to talk to my friends as I was fearful of being judged,...
General Education

By June 3, 2024
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20 TOP TIPS TO ATTRACT GENUINE SWINGERS TO YOUR SWINGER DATING PROFILE Attracting genuine swingers online involves: Creating a trustworthy and appealing profile. Engaging respectfully with the Community. ...
Using this Website

By May 29, 2024
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Images for Blog Posts or Events CNM4US Blogs and Events have a place for an image. You can publish a blog or an event without an image, but they look a little naked. Only some people are adept with digital media--like images. That's okay. If you want an image for your Blog or Event, just message Admin. We'll be happy to create one for you. Describe the Image You Want Do you want an illustration or a photograph? ...
Using this Website

By May 24, 2024
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Quick Video on the Member Verification Process with Veriff   Your browser does not support the video tag.
Health & Safety

By May 17, 2024
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Life is a Game of Risk Management All our lives are one prolonged risk management exercise. Most of us could live to 90 or more if we never took risks, ate anything delicious, went outside, or had fun. On the other hand, those who are bad at risk management are more likely to suffer painful or debilitating consequences or even premature demise. They might even earn a Darwin Award. Risk management is a game of odds. Sometimes, the ball takes an unexpected bounce. People who are great at risk ma...
Relationship Talk

By May 14, 2024
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Freely given. Consenting is a choice you make without pressure, manipulation, or under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Reversible. Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing, anytime. Even if you’ve done it before, and even if you’re both naked in bed. Informed. You can only consent to something if you have the full story. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, there isn’t full consent. Enthusiastic. When it comes to sex, you should o...
General Education

By May 14, 2024
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Hi Rosie, what is soft swinging?    Today, I have decided to create content that often gets overlooked when discussing the lifestyle: soft swinging. In this article, I will discuss soft swinging, why a couple might practice it, and how it is viewed in the adult lifestyle world. Are couples who practice soft swinging less 'useful' than those who 'go all the way'? And are there some couples or individuals who only ever soft-swap?    Turn those lights down low and settle in. It's time to talk a...
General Education

By May 8, 2024
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Non-Monogamy & Newbie drama! He did what?!? Eyes roll. Jaws drop. Quick, please--somebody fetch my popcorn. Cuz, here we go again! I will tell you the number one cause of newbie drama, hurt feelings, and broken relationships. Lack of communication! But you didn't even know what you were supposed to communicate about, which is what I will explain to you right now. Types of Non-Monogamy ...
Using this Website

By May 5, 2024
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CNM4US Notes Finding the right matches in the lifestyle is a numbers game. Network, communicate, discuss. Wait, did we talk to those people already? I can't remember what they said. Every profile has a Notes tab where you can leave notes for yourself. Only you can see your notes. The profile you left it on cannot see your notes. Other members cannot see your notes. Only you can see your notes. If there's something important you need to remember about a profile, leave a note for yourself to ...
Using this Website

By May 5, 2024
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Welcome to this Exciting Collaboration! Greetings TKG Club  members. CNM4US welcomes you to the site! ThisKindaGirl will be offering its members lifestyle dating features via CNM4US. CNM4US provides social media and dating features for the lifestyle community. Think a mashup between facebook and match.com but for swingers. ThisKindaGirl will make their exclusive content available on their new private group TKG - Premium on CNM4US. ThisKindaGirl will continue to make their exclusivie conten...
Using this Website

By May 5, 2024
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Testimonials Testimonials are a great way to meet new people. We naturally seek the opinions of people we know and trust, and the lifestyle is no different. That's why CNM4US provides a Testimonials feature on every Profile.  How do Testimonials Work? ...
Using this Website

By April 21, 2024
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The CNM4US Marketplace Verified members can sell items in the Marketplace. We currently support payment service providers PayPal and Stripe. If you have an account with one of these PSPs, you can enter your PSP information in your CNM4US Account Settings and start selling items in the Marketplace.  What Can We Sell? You can sell tangible or intangible items.   ...
Using this Website

By April 20, 2024
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SwingRing and The 10-minute Touch Base Call The lifestyle journey is fun, exciting, sexy .... and full of challenges. Along the way, you will encounter fakes, flakes, and people who are pondering their options but are still not ready to commit. All of this can make for a lot of disappointing meetings. People fail to show up. People show up but don't look anything like their photos. One person of the couple is super excited to meet you and their partner appears confused about why you are meeti...
Using this Website

By April 16, 2024
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The Need for Privacy Some folks are totally open about their participation in the Lifestyle. They want to know what rings or jewelry they can wear to signal to other swingers. They are happy to wear a t-shirt with a giant upside-down pineapple. They don't care who knows. They have no fears. Some people have good reasons to keep their lifestyle habits private. Their conservative family or church community might disown them. They might get fired. If they are active military personnel, they might...
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