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What Are The Rules of Swinging?   When considering entering the world of swinging, it pays to do your research first and discover what the rules of swinging are. And, if there are any, how best to follow them? Do the same rules apply to all situations?   Here are my top 5 Rules to follow when swinging: ...

I'm scared of accidentally catching an STI or STD when swinging. Hi Rosie, I am unsure if this is the right place to ask this question, but I am not sure who else to ask. I looked on Google, but I found the search results confusing. So here goes! I have been wanting to visit a swingers club for some time now, as I find it a massive turn on the thought of meeting with couples, and I am especially keen to be part of an MMF threesome. But I am really scared of accidentally catching an STI or STD. ...

How To Tell Someone You Like Swinging   This article isn’t going to tell you how to talk to your partner about starting swinging. Neither is it going to advise you on how to have that conversation. I’m not going to sugarcoat the truth, and I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear. Why? Well, firstly, I already have a lot of information on how to have the swinging conversation and articles on how to get started in the lifestyle. And secondly, I wanted to share what my journey has been l...

http://open.spotify.com/episode/0eCjn76ggLxkWJd5Td3dbG?si=BkGJnS1bSzyBBCBlSNyaKw&t=3106 Richard has the same idea to verify people to stop ghosting amongst others. Basically how to get rid of flakey people in the lifestyle. Almost at the end of the episode.    Thanks for this service Rosie and CNM4US 

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Overcoming Impostor Syndrome: How to Believe in Yourself Even When You Don’t Feel Good Enough How many of us have ever felt like we don’t belong? Are we not good enough, do we not have the correct qualifications, or are perhaps fraudsters terrified of being exposed? Throughout my swinger lifestyle journey, from absolute beginner to Rosie Kay, non-Monogamy relationship coach, there have been many changes, revelations, triumphs, and achievements. However, there has also been one constant: the uns...

Women of Sex Tech This is part of CNM4US continuing series on the Women of Sex Tech. Below is a summary of one of the women of sex tech. Visit the Women of Sex Tech to find out more about these innovative entrpreneurs. Nina Haines Nina is a Gender & Sexuality Studies major at NYU, where her focus lies in rape culture and its intersection with sex tech. She has been working at Unbound for over a year as an intern, specifically assisting with social media influencer marketing, partnerships, and...

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Hi Rosie, I have been looking online to find swingers in my local area, and I have noticed that a few swinger couples, in their online profiles, have stated that they are looking for long-term swinger friends with who they can fluid bond with. My question, or rather questions, are as follows: is fluid bonding and bareback the same thing? How popular is this in the lifestyle, and how could it be practised safely?- AJ California    Dear AJ, Thank you for your questions. Although this particular ...

Women of Sex Tech This is part of CNM4US continuing series on the Women of Sex Tech. Below is a summary of one of the women of sex tech. Visit the Women of Sex Tech to find out more about these innovative entrpreneurs. Marcy Gooberman Marcy is the designer and illustrator of tabú, a modern discovery platform for sex and health. Marcy discovered her passion for sex education when she was studying graphic design at Maryland Institute College of Art. She has experience working with other educati...

Women of Sex Tech This is part of CNM4US continuing series on the Women of Sex Tech. Below is a summary of one of the women of sex tech. Visit the Women of Sex Tech to find out more about these innovative entrpreneurs. Andrea Barrica Andrea Barrica is CEO/co-founder of O.school, an online shame-free platform for pleasure education, powered by live-streaming and chat to help people unlearn shame, process trauma, and learn about sex and pleasure. Previously, Andrea co-founded YC-backed accounti...

Women of Sex Tech This is part of CNM4US continuing series on the Women of Sex Tech. Below is a summary of one of the women of sex tech. Visit the Women of Sex Tech to find out more about these innovative entrpreneurs. Stephanie Alys Stephanie is a Co-founder and Chief Pleasure Officer (CPO) of MysteryVibe, an award-winning British pleasure brand. As CPO, Stephanie is focused on changing perceptions around pleasure in a positive and empowering way. A strong advocate that pleasure is a beautif...

This New York Times article, "Women of Sex Tech Unite," highlights the rise of a creative group of women in the sex tech industry who challenge traditional norms and pave the way for innovation in the space. These women are not just business leaders but advocates for sexual empowerment, diversity, and inclusion. The article showcases how they are creating technology-driven products and services that cater to a wide range of sexual experiences and identities, emphasizing the importance of female ...

She said his penis was small, and now things are awkward! Help! Hi there; recently, my wife and I had an interaction with another couple we met online and had become friendly with. After we had all finished playing, my wife revealed to me that she thought the other bloke's penis was quite small and didn't want to meet up with them again. This has now caused an issue as my wife doesn't want a repeat, but the other girl does. We are friends with this couple, and now things are a bit awkward when...

I am worried I sound like a pervert when I talk about sex!   Hi Rosie, my wife and I have been married for ten years, and our relationship is excellent. About six months ago, I suggested exploring the non-monogamy, or swinger lifestyle. She was more on board than I thought she would be, and we subsequently watched some YouTube videos and tried to educate ourselves further. Since this exciting start, however, we have struggled to have further conversations; when I suggest visiting a swinger clu...

Over recent years, the swinger lifestyle has exploded in popularity here in the UK. The UK’s diverse swinging community includes people of various ages, backgrounds, and relationship statuses. Couples, singles, and people of different sexual orientations participate.   Did you know that 1.5 million Brits are swingers? There are reported to be over 150 swingers clubs here in the UK, but how do you go about meeting one of these sexually liberated adults or visiting one of these elusive venues? ...

Bug Bounty It is inevitable that a site with this many features will have a few bugs from time to time. However, CNM4US strives to identify and fix bugs as rapidly as possible. Our members can help by reporting bugs when they find them. If you are the first member to report a replicable bug, CNM4US will reward your communication to us with $50. If you are the 2nd or 3rd person to report the same bug, BEFORE it's fixed, CNM4US will bestow upon you 1 kudo. 3 kudos = $50 reward. ...

Hi Rosie, my partner and I had an incredible swinging experience while we were on vacation. We hooked up with a fun couple, and everything was amazing. Fast forward to Thanksgiving dinner at my aunt and uncle's house, and to our shock, one of the people we played with walks in. Turns out, he's my second cousin! We locked eyes across the table, both of us frozen in shock. We didn't know what to do, and my partner and I didn't speak to the second cousin during the dinner. Now we have to navigate t...

Extramonogamous Non-monogamous relationships come in many forms, each with its own set of rules, norms, and expectations. Terms like Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM), Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), Open Relationships, Swinging, and Polyamory are commonly used to describe various relationship dynamics that extend beyond traditional monogamy. However, these terms can sometimes lead to confusion, especially regarding partner consent within these relationships. We propose a new term: extramonogamous, to...

Hi Rosie, My husband and I are relatively new to the world of swinging. We have spoken to some couples online and have checked out a swingers club locally that we might visit, and although I am not opposed to it, I am struggling to see what role I can play. It's not that I don't want to be part of the lifestyle; I do, but I don't feel I can be intimate with men other than my husband. Whenever I speak to my husband about how I am feeling, he doesn't seem to understand where I am coming from and s...