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What Happens When A Couple Go From Monogamy to Ethical Non-Monogamy    Last week, I was speaking with one of you lovely members here in CNM4US, who asked me if I created content about ENM or if it was just swinging. The answer is yes, yes I do, and although I am perhaps a little 'swinger heavy' at times (ok, I am quite swinger lifestyle focussed), I do indeed create ENM content, too. So here, for you, is an article I wrote all about transitioning from Monogamy to Ethical Monogamy, which is a...

CNM4US Cruise Groups One of our members, Alcouple47, mentioned that swingers who take vanilla cruises look for other swingers on those cruises. I've done a little reading to confirm many postings in forums asking about how swingers can find other swingers on vanilla cruises. Not everyone will hang an upside-down pineapple or post a suggestive note on their door. What's a swinger at sea supposed to do? CNM4US has an answer -- Cruise Groups On request, CNM4US will create a Group for a specific...

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Hi Rosie, I am scared of talking to my partner about starting swinging; I just don’t know how they will react!    POV: You are scared of your partner’s reaction or there being repercussions when you share your fantasies or make suggestions about the lifestyle.   Why? Why is it that we struggle to talk about intimacy, human nature and sexual desire in our relationships? Because we don’t want to jeopardise the good thing we have built, we don’t want to cause upset and insecurity and potentiall...

Hi, Rosie, Is your wife cuckolding you with your boss too risky? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this, as it's something that has been going around in my mind for so long. Do you think it's possible, or am I just going to cause problems by even suggesting it? Thank you for your question.   Thank you for your question, Cuckolding is a practice I have written about previously and a dynamic that I myself have practised. It appears that cuckolding and Ethical Non-Monogamy go hand in hand, but to...

How Your Gut Health Can Be a Libido Booster by Camila Sluman | Jul 3, 2024 | SEXUALITY Yes, you read the title right. Perhaps unexpectedly, the gut plays a potent role in sexual vitality. While gut health has become a hot topic recently, its connection to other bodily functions besides digestion (including things like anxiety and, of course, sexual health) is lesser known. Keep reading to learn more about how and why a flourishing gut microbiome can help produce an increased libido. ...

How to Find an LGBTQ Affirming Therapist by Dr. Kat Arenella | Jul 7, 2024 | LGBTQ, MENTAL HEALTH, SOCIAL ISSUES, THERAPY If you identify as part of the LGBTQIA2S+ community, finding affirming mental health care can feel like a daunting task. This concern is also, unfortunately, a valid one; many sexual and gender minoritized folks report experiencing harm by providers who lack understanding and knowledge in queer mental health, and this is especially true for queer and trans people of color. ...

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What should we take when meeting a swinger couple at their house?    Hi Rosie, my wife and I started swinging about six months ago, and we have so far been to a swingers club- where we had a soft swap experience and have also been talking to some swinger couples online with the hope of meeting up for a date and maybe more! The last time we spoke to a couple online, they told us about a private meet at their house they were planning, and this got us thinking: should my wife and I choose to atte...

Yikes, my partner is moving too fast!   Hi Rosie, my partner and I started swinging about six months ago, and we met a couple in private who we found online. We also visited a swingers club three times. Although I enjoy it, and I am on board with it, my male partner, whom I have been with for 2 years, often gets very 'fired up' when speaking to other swingers online or looking at clubs. I understand that he is enthusiastic, but I often feel he makes decisions without considering how I might fe...

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HANDLING SWINGER EMOTIONS   Handling Swinger Emotions, this topic is part of a mini-series I am doing, all about handling emotions when swinging with another couple. I have already shared with you two great questions that I received, and in this post, I aim to uncover the mixed bag of emotions that arise when you are swinging with other playmates.   Guilt, jealousy, insecurity and discovery are all part of the process, and luckily for you, I’m right here with you to help make sense of this e...

Rejection? Or just busy?   Hi Rosie, I am a single woman in the swinger lifestyle and I have been part of the scene for around 6 months. I have attended a social event here in my hometown and spoke to a few couples online.   Two weeks ago, I had my first meeting with a couple. We have all been getting along fine, and we chat in a group chat every other day, but over the last few days, I have noticed that their responses have become less frequent, and they seem less engaged than they were be...

What if I can’t get it up?   Hi Rosie, I am a 45-year-old single man who is new to the scene. I can't wait to attend my first event and play with couples, but what if I can’t get hard? Is this normal in the lifestyle?   Signed, excited but anxious, Berlin, Germany ...

It is okay to just watch? Hi Rosie, I'm not sure if my question is a common one, but I thought you might be able to offer me some advice on it as I'm not sure who to talk to. My wife and I like the thought of going to a swingers club, and we regularly talk about the experiences we might have and also share our fantasies. Although we want to play with a couple, we are also quite nervous about it- the thought of completely swapping terrifies us, and we were wondering, can we watch in a swingers ...

CNM4US introduces the Private Access Pass Have you ever wanted a business card for your lifestyle profile? One of the biggest problems with Lifestyle websites is their fragmentation. If you meet someone interesting at a club or meet-n-greet, what are the chances that you are both on the same site? Slim! Your online community does little to support your IRL (In Real Life) networking efforts. Giving someone your profile name only helps them if they subscribe to the same site—and mostly, they do...

Ask Rosie- Your Swinger Lifestyle Problems Solved! When I first started in the swinger lifestyle, I really struggled to find help, guidance and support. I felt there wasn't anyone to who I could talk, and when I did look online for answers, I found it difficult to relate to those who were providing the answers; most appeared to be older, US-based couples whose experiences had been completely different from my own. I also found I was unable to talk to my friends as I was fearful of being judged,...

20 TOP TIPS TO ATTRACT GENUINE SWINGERS TO YOUR SWINGER DATING PROFILE Attracting genuine swingers online involves: Creating a trustworthy and appealing profile. Engaging respectfully with the Community. ...

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